This Is What It’s Like to Raise a Montessori Child

This is What it's Like to Raise a Montessori Child

He bounced up and down. I rubbed my eyes, unable to tell if it was caused by excitement or anxiety. "Mommy can I face paint?" I stared blankly at him. He stilled and leaned in. "Are you listening?" I was now hypnotized by the coffee pot, which perfectly mirrored my lethargy with the slowest drips possible.  "Can I?" I stared at him … [Read more...]

The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

The Greatest Gift You Can Give A Child

“What's the point of singing songs if they'll never even hear you?” - Sufjan Stevens, Carrie &  Lowell Teaching your child to love himself is the greatest gift you can give a child. If you could endow your child with just one thing, it should be this. When we tie a child's activities to an evaluation of his performance (like when we say … [Read more...]

Trying to Break the “Good Job” Habit? These 21 Suggestions Are For You.

What to Say Instead of Good Job

I've talked a lot about how excessive praise can be damaging to our children's intrinsic motivation (working just for the pure pleasure of it - not to please anyone else), but I haven't talked a lot about what to do instead. Constant good jobbing is a habit, and habits can be hard to break. But it can be done! The easiest way to stop saying "good … [Read more...]

An Epidemic of Good Jobs and High Fives is Trivializing Our Children’s Work

an epidemic of good jobs and high fives is trivializing our children's work

"See my picture? I made it for you. Do you like it?" When a child comes to you with excitement to show you some of his work, it can be difficult not to respond with praise. On the tip of the tongue is a positive response such as "I love it! Great job!" or "Did you draw this for me? Very nice!" I hate to burst a bubble if you're new to Montessori, … [Read more...]

A Little Montessori Trick to Encourage Young Readers

books in unexpected place close up

Over the years, little Montessori tricks have filtered into my home life with the children, and the most relevant technique is no secret at all - it's one of the great foundations of any Montessori teacher training worth its salt. The prepared environment is a powerful influence on a child's behavior. Much more powerful than any of us can truly … [Read more...]